Taylor / Lloyd Counselling & Consulting

The Process of Finding Balance and Achieving Change.

What to Expect in Counselling



Counselling usually proceeds with an initial overview assessment of your situation and an exploration of the elements and issues connected with your distress.  Your goals for engaging in counselling will be identified and if those are a good fit with our experience and abilities, then we will proceed.  If your issues are outside our expertise and usual scope of practice, then we will make an appropriate referral to another therapist.



Usually counselling attempts to provide options to help you move beyond a current impasse with improved knowledge, more skills, and a better understanding of how you can be an active agent of change in your own life. Counsellors often play the roles of guides, teachers, or coaches; in the process of understanding your concerns, helping to identify your options and encouraging action on your part, to better help you manage and prosper.

 

Our counselling framework is primarily cognitive behavioural and systemic. Humans function best when they can think before they act.  What you think - feel - do - are each important with each one element having influence on the others.



Counselling helps sort out the emotions that contribute to personal distress, helps identify the problem-solving options, and encourages action directed at enabling better self-management. Counselling is fundamentally helpful from the starting point of helping you realize that your concerns are understood and accepted - that you are not alone with your problem.

 

Couples and family counselling takes these intrapersonal skills and applies them in encouraging honest dialogue, a shared understanding of the problems that have grown in the relationship, and focusing on negotiated change with the goal of significant improvement in the relationship. 

 

Being in counselling is hard work. You will be asked to be honest about your feelings and to acknowledge your roles as well as learning the patterns of relating that often are a part of people feeling stuck, frustrated and relatively helpless.  You will be asked to take responsibility for learning how to become your best as a problem-solver --  for yourself and for others.